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Embarking on a Journey to Sierra Leone: A Quest for Peacebuilding and Reconciliation (Part 2)2/17/2025  Suraj Budathoki, Ahmad Bakdad, France Bognon, Interim CEO, International Civil Society Action Network; Jesica Rhone, Director of International Programs, McConnell Foundation By Suraj Budathoki Although I have never visited a war zone or country ravaged by conflict, the desire to visit these places, meet with people who have lived through unimaginable circumstances, and learn from their experiences has always been deep-rooted in me. My doctoral studies over time, now have revolved around theories aimed at mending the acrimony between warring parties. I have invested reasonable time reading, researching their implementation, and scrutinizing the ingrained challenges in such processes. Still, there is something incomparable about moving out of the academic world and into the real stories of those affected by conflict. I am grateful to Global Citizens Circle for allowing me to deepen my understanding through meaningful dialogue and engagement. This incredible organization has been a cornerstone of my development as a peacebuilder, continually encouraging me to link theory with practice. During one of these moments of connection, Theo Spanos Dunfey, the president and executive director of Global Citizens Circle, a remarkable mentor and friend, reached out to me with an opportunity that filled me with excitement. Theo’s email was concise but electrifying: there was a chance to attend the Constellation for Peace 2 (CP2) conference,organized by Catalyst for Peace and Fambul Tok, in Sierra Leone. As soon as I read the message, my curiosity led me to research the country, its civil war, and the groundbreaking reconciliation work that has occurred since. Sierra Leone endured a brutal civil war from 1991 to 2002 that left unforgettable marks. However, the nation has also been an extraordinary testament to the power of reconciliation, community healing, and grassroots peacebuilding. A Global Gathering of Peace Activists Being part of a global gathering of peace activists was exciting. Delegates from across the world—Northern Ireland, Nepal, Germany, Gambia, and beyond came together to share their experiences and learn from one another. It was not only an opportunity to observe peacebuilding in action but also to play a part in the collective effort to imagine a more harmonious world. I also shared my experiences with Peace Initiative Bhutan—a newly minted organization to foster peace and reconciliation with Bhutan through sincere dialogue. We do not believe in ushering in positive peace by defeating the other side, as we have spent more than three decades with that intention. Now, with the establishment of Peace Initiative Bhutan, we want to create a win-win solution where both parties emerge into dialogue in a mutually respectful environment for the betterment of the affected people. When I arrived in Sierra Leone, we boarded a bus to Freetow followed by a ferry to our final destination. Our journey across the water felt significant and transforming; I felt I was crossing a bridge of new understanding and solidarity, from conflict to cooperation, understanding war and division to unity. Accordingly, I, too, am transforming from an individual with my own concerns about Bhutan to a global citizen with an appreciation for and commitment to peacebuilding worldwide. Immersion and Learning in Villages Our schedule included traveling to villages badly affected by the civil war. I looked forward to this part of the trip the most—meeting people who had experienced the war firsthand and hearing their stories of loss, survival, and reconciliation. Each of the villages we visited symbolized a testament to human toughness and community’s transformative power. In one of the villages, I encountered a woman who had lost all her family members to the war. Despite her unthinkable pain, she had become a community leader and “Peace Mother,” championing dialogue and healing among former combatants and victims. Her story made me shed tears but also gave me a renewed sense of purpose in my own journey as a peacebuilder. Something she said will stay with me for eternity: “Forgiveness is not easy, but it is the only way forward.” Witnessing a traditional ceremony where community members publicly forgave one another and committed to rebuilding trust was yet another indelible experience. These ceremonies are rooted in Sierra Leone's culture and traditions; they also offer a powerful example of how local practices can be integral to peacebuilding. Insights and Takeaways I learned a lot from the conference and the village visits. Peacebuilding is not a one-stop endeavor; it requires humility, listening, and a willingness to adapt to the needs and contexts of the people involved. I heard stories about pain and also about the courage to heal and move forward. Those stories reminded me that reconciliation is not a destination but a journey—one that demands patience and steady commitment. Building a Global Network for Peace Aside from the lessons, the trip was an opportunity to build relationships with peacebuilders from around the world. During meals and conversations, we exchanged ideas, strategies, and dreams for a more peaceful future. These connections are a source of hope and remind us that we are not alone in this work. On my way back from Freetown at the end of the trip, I felt an immense sense of gratitude—for the chance to be part of something larger than myself, for the people who shared their stories, and for the global community of peacebuilders I am now privileged to call friends. This journey to Sierra Leone was both a professional milestone and a profoundly personal one, confirming my belief in the power of human connection and the possibility of a more peaceful world. I am returning home not just with stories and lessons but with a revitalized commitment to continue the work of peacebuilding and reconciliation. Although long, the road ahead promises hope, healing, and transformation. Part I of this blog may be found here. Suraj Budathoki is the co-founder and president of Peace Initiative Bhutan, which is committed to fostering positive change in Bhutan through reconciliation. His organization partners with Global Citizens Circle, collaborating to share resources and knowledge in peacebuilding through sincere dialogue. In addition to his peace work, Suraj is a doctoral student in Transformative Social Change at Saybrook University in California, and he was recently elected to serve in the NH State House of Representatives. Please note: Each week, we invite members of the greater Global Citizens Circle community to contribute to GCC Voices. The views and opinions expressed in each blog post are solely those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of Global Citizens Circle. Reconciliation is not a destination but a journey—one that demands patience and steady commitment.
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 By Suraj Budathoki I am making my first-ever trip to the African nation of Sierra Leone, a nation finally beginning to reconcile after decades of bloody civil war. As someone who survived forceful expulsion from his country at an early age, and where the division is chronic and shows no sign of improving, this journey is crucial. My journey into reconciliation within myself began not as a grand declaration, but as a deeply personal quest for healing—healing for myself, for my community, and ultimately, for my birth homeland of Bhutan. Because I have, early in my life, experienced displacement, a reasonable part of my life has been dedicated to the pursuit of a serene environment where peace, dignity, and understanding thrive. I couldn’t find a guideline for my healing journey until I crossed paths with the wisdom of the great peacemakers, Mahatma Gandhi, Archbishop Desmond Tutu, and Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. My physical journey from a Bhutanese refugee camp in Nepal where I spent almost 20 years to the United States was just part of the struggle; I knew that too well. The invisible wounds—those of trauma, loss, humiliation, and disconnection—could not be healed simply by crossing borders or leaving decades behind. Another type of journey was necessary, a journey that gravitated inward toward self-discovery and outward toward community and collective healing. I’ve learned that it is critically important to engage in a healing process prior to engaging in peacebuilding and reconciliation work, especially for a person that has been strongly impacted by historical trauma or other forms of personal pain. Unsettled trauma does not only cloud judgment but also sustains cycles of pain and hampers the ability to stimulate authentic reconciliation. As we’ve often heard, "Hurt people hurt people." In other words, individuals whose wounds are not yet healed may, often unknowingly, transfer their aggression to others, aggravating dispute instead of finding a solution to them. For that reason, healing is not just a personal necessity but a necessary condition for contributing to the greater collective settlement process. To honestly offer the empathy, patience, and understanding required to close gaps and promote a more peaceful future, individuals must first tend their own wounds. Reading the works of Gandhi, Tutu, and MLK, Jr., I realized how crucial it is to respect and honor those on the other side of the conflict, not as foes, but as equal contenders in a shared game. Each of these peacemakers confronted strongly ingrained injustices but believed in the transformative power of nonviolence, forgiveness, and reconciliation. The ahimsa principle of Mahatma Gandhi—the nonviolence practice—profoundly resonated with me. Gandhi taught that true peace emanates from understanding one’s opponents. Through his belief in satyagraha, or the force of truth, I realized that reconciliation starts from accepting the humanity and dignity of the other side, even when their actions have caused harm. From the Bhutanese point of view, it implies understanding the historical and political intricacies without giving in to bitterness or displeasure. My understanding of collective healing is strongly impacted by Archbishop Desmond Tutu’s role in South Africa’s Truth and Reconciliation Commission. “No future without forgiveness,” as he believed, particularly stands out to me. According to Tutu, forgiveness is not just for the one who has been wronged, it is also for the wrongdoer as well. He also argued that it is a requisite step toward freeing both parties from the cycle of pain and violence. The caveat we need to understand, however, is that righteous closer of the conflict is necessary for forgiving wrongdoers. I have given this idea the utmost attention in my work with Peace Initiative Bhutan. I have realized that true reconciliation is about transforming our thoughts about the past, not about wiping them away. The primary aim is to openly confront the injustices we endured and not to forget them and to seek a path that heals rather than encourages division. Dr. King’s vision of a “Beloved Community” sustained my hope for what is possible, even when confronted with deep-rooted conflict. From Dr. King, I learned that justice and peace are attainable realities and not unachievable dreams, as long as we are committed to nonviolent struggle and hold firmly to the belief in human dignity. The idea that peacebuilding must be grounded in empathy, compassion, and a refusal to treat the other side as if they are lesser humans was strengthened by his philosophy of love as a driving force in social change. Today, as I go on with my work in peacebuilding, both in Bhutan and with Bhutanese communities around the world, I am accompanied by the lessons of these exceptional leaders. I am reminded by their teachings that peace is not just an absence of war or violence, but a state of mind, a way of living, and a commitment to healing the wounds of the past. The path to sustainable peace in Bhutan demands that we all come together as equal players, believing in each other’s humanity, while committing to the tough but crucial work of restoring trust. This journey is about learning to see further than the pain of the past and toward the potential for a future that inculcates all of us. And just as Gandhi, Tutu, and MLK Jr. have taught us, this journey needs immense courage, patience, and, above all, love. As I strive to bring healing and reconciliation to my people, the wisdom of these extraordinary leaders keeps me grounded and focused. Their words serve as a constant reminder that peace is not just an aspiration but a tangible possibility—one that requires us to see each other not as adversaries, but as partners in a shared journey. Each of us has a role in building a world that is more just, compassionate, and peaceful. Stay tuned for Part 2. Suraj Budathoki is the co-founder and president of Peace Initiative Bhutan, which is committed to fostering positive change in Bhutan through reconciliation. His organization partners with Global Citizens Circle, collaborating to share resources and knowledge in peacebuilding through sincere dialogue. In addition to his peace work, Suraj is a doctoral student in Transformative Social Change at Saybrook University in California, and he was recently elected to serve in the NH State House of Representatives. Please note: Each week, we invite members of the greater Global Citizens Circle community to contribute to GCC Voices. The views and opinions expressed in each blog post are solely those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of Global Citizens Circle. Because I have, early in my life, experienced displacement, a reasonable part of my life has been dedicated to the pursuit of a serene environment where peace, dignity, and understanding thrive. In September 2023, Global Citizens Circle partnered with The Parents Circle-Families Forum and Narrative 4 – these three organizations share a similar and powerful mission to foster empathy through dialogue – to present a virtual Circle, Reclaiming Our Humanity: Conversations for Peace. Their shared objective formed the bedrock of the event, which aimed to shed light on the 75-year struggle between Palestinians and Israelis, a conflict often regarded as one of the world's most intractable. The event featured Colum McCann, distinguished author of the renowned work “Apeirogon” and president of Narrative 4, in a thought-provoking exchange with bereaved family members from The Parent Circle-Families Forum, Arab Aramin and Yigal Elhanan. This transformative conversation resonated deeply with its audience. Highlights of this Circle can be viewed below, and the full Circle may be viewed here. So much has happened since our 2023 Circle – and now, more than ever, we need respectful dialogue to foster empathy and find our way toward reconciliation and peace.
GCC will co-host Holding Onto Humanity with the Ford Hall Forum, in partnership with the Parents Circle-Family Forum, a joint Israeli-Palestinian organization made up of more than 750 bereaved families on September 23, from 6-7 pm. Parents Circle-Families Forum have chosen a path of reconciliation. Often raw and emotional, out of these interactions comes change. Not the kind of change that makes headlines, but a more profound shift in perspective. Join us for an evening of conversation with bereaved Israeli mother Robi Damelin and bereaved Palestinian mother Laila Alsheikh, who both lost their sons to the conflict. They will tell their personal stories of loss and explain their choice to engage in dialogue and reconciliation. The evening’s moderator is Charles M. Sennott,founder and editor of The GroundTruth Project and an award-winning correspondent, author, and editor with 30 years of experience in international, national, and local journalism. Previously, Sennott worked for many years as a reporter at the Boston Globe, where he became Bureau Chief for the Middle East and Europe and a leader of the paper's international coverage. We invite you to join us at Suffolk University’s Modern Theatre, 525 Washington Street in Boston on September 23. Registration information may be found here. This program will be livestreamed by the Ford Hall Forum, and you must sign up here to receive the livestream link. |
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