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 By Kibar Moussoba I was sitting in my classroom on 9/11 when someone turned to me and said: “Kibar, was that you? What did you do? Was your dad flying that plane?” I froze. It took me a moment to even process what had just been said. The news had been playing on all TVs showing footage of smoke, destruction, and fear. And now, somehow, I was being linked to it. I didn’t have the words to explain how wrong that moment was. All I knew was that things were changing, and quickly. In the weeks and months after 9/11, I was no longer just a kid in high school. I was an Arab-American that constantly had to look over my shoulder. It didn't matter that I was 15 years old. It didn't matter that I was Christian. It didn't matter that I lived in rural New Hampshire with absolutely no connection to any terrorist organization. The bullying, name calling, and snickering at my expense continued longer than I care to explain. What I learned years later is this: when people don’t understand you, they create their own version of your story. And the best way to change that was to tell your own story before they tell it for you. For a long time, I stayed silent. I kept my head down. I knew that if I ignored the comments, they would simply go away. The following year, my English teacher announced a school-wide essay contest inviting students to share their reflections on 9/11 and what freedom meant to us. At first, I wasn’t sure if I wanted to participate. After all, I was not in a positive state of mind about this topic so I saw no reason to subject myself to this exercise. But, of course, the same day they announced this essay contest, the kid that was making my life miserable for a year decided to take another stab at me. I wrote the whole thing that night. I wrote about my family’s journey to America. About what it meant to leave behind a war-torn country. About how proud we were to become citizens. And about how, after 9/11, that sense of belonging was gone for me and most Arab-Americans in this country. When I was selected to read my essay in front of the entire school, I was terrified. The same students who had been bullying me, who had laughed, who had made me feel like an outsider — they would all be in that room. What felt like the next day, I stepped onto that stage as the last finalist to read their essay. I closed my eyes, and with slight anger in my voice I belted out the first words, "I was born during a war." Over the next 4 minutes I spoke about freedom from my lens, but what it could truly look like. I spoke about the façade of unity in this country. I spoke about pride and perseverance; how escaping war from my birth country only led to war in this country. When I finished, there was silence. I could practically hear the jaws hitting the floor. I was unsure if what I had just done was going to help me or hurt me, but the principal encouraged everyone to applaud and I walked off stage. As we exited the assembly, something unexpected happened. The one kid who led the charge at making my life miserable for the past year stopped me in the hallway. He looked at me, but didn't say anything this time. As he stuck out his hand, his blank face turned to remorse. He didn’t say a word. But he didn’t have to. That moment told me everything. He saw me. That moment taught me a lesson I will never forget: stories have the power to shift perspectives in ways that arguments never will. People fear what they don’t understand. When we don’t know someone’s story, we fill in the blanks with assumptions. The best way to break down bias is to make yourself known. Stories create connection. Facts inform. But stories connect. When someone hears your lived experience, they don’t just process information — they feel it. When you share your truth, you take back control. For a short amount of time, I let others define my identity. But telling my story helped me reclaim it. So, if you feel misunderstood — don’t allow yourself to shrink. Share your story. Let people see you. Because when they do, their perspective might change forever. We all have a story that could change someone’s perspective. My story brought me to the TEDx stage. Ask yourself, what’s one part of your story that others could benefit from hearing? Kibar Moussoba is the senior program manager of People Experience at Southern New Hampshire University, where he leads strategic Inclusive Listening initiatives to enhance employee engagement and equity, diversity, and inclusion. With a deep passion for fostering meaningful workplace experiences, he helps drive key initiatives aligned with the university’s strategic goals. Beyond his role at SNHU, Kibar is an award-winning entertainer and professional DJ, known for creating unforgettable experiences at events across New England and beyond. His love for music began at the age of five with piano lessons, and by 19, he had launched his professional DJ career with Main Event Entertainment. Originally from Beirut, Lebanon, but having spent most of his life in Southern New Hampshire, he developed his DJing skills early and quickly became a sought-after performer. His ability to blend diverse musical influences and craft dynamic atmospheres has made him one of New England’s top DJs. In addition to his professional commitments, Kibar serves on the Board of Directors for the Mental Health Center of Greater Manchester and has been recognized with several accolades, including the prestigious 40 Under Forty award in New Hampshire. He is also a TEDx speaker, sharing insights on resilience, perspective, and personal growth. A husband and father of two, Kibar balances his career with his dedication to family, mentorship, and making a meaningful impact in every space he enters. Please note: Each week, we invite members of the greater Global Citizens Circle community to contribute to GCC Voices. The views and opinions expressed in each blog post are solely those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of Global Citizens Circle. When we don’t know someone’s story, we fill in the blanks with assumptions. The best way to break down bias is to make yourself known. Stories create connection. Facts inform. But stories connect. When someone hears your lived experience, they don’t just process information — they feel it. When you share your truth, you take back control.
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Raising Mental Heath Awareness: A Q&A with Emerging Leader and GCC Youth Ambassador Stanley Asango7/6/2024  Stanley Asango at the United Nations, NYC, 2024 As a dedicated mental health advocate and counseling psychology student, Stanley Asango is committed to promoting mental health and wellbeing. Through his active involvement with nonprofit organisations like Miracle Corners of the World Global (MCW Global) and Global Citizens Circle (GCC), he has honed his leadership skills and gained a global perspective. These experiences have fueled his passion for making a positive impact on mental health, both nationally and internationally. Stanley's goal is to leverage his knowledge and skills to drive meaningful change and support communities in achieving better mental health outcomes. Stanley recently connected with GCC to answer some questions about his work as an activist and emerging leader – and why raising mental health awareness is so important, particularly for youth. How did you get involved as an activist, and what cause is most important to you? I became involved as a mental health activist through the support and resources provided by MCW Global, an organization partnered with Global Citizens Circle (GCC). MCW Global gave me the platform to spread mental health awareness among the youth in Nairobi, Kenya. My primary focus is on mental health because I believe that mental well-being is fundamental to making authentic and wise decisions, whether it's in addressing climate change, improving education, or any other area of impact. Good mental health is crucial for the youth, as they are at a critical stage in their lives where their decisions will shape their futures and influence future generations. Tell us about the work you do and hope to do as an emerging leader for GCC. As an emerging leader and youth ambassador for GCC, my goal is to expand the organization's outreach to as many youths as possible worldwide. I aim to strengthen GCC's partnerships with other youth organizations, including MCW Global, by fostering collaboration and resource sharing. By increasing awareness and promoting mental health education, I hope to empower young people to make informed decisions and address unresolved trauma that could otherwise hinder their ability to contribute positively to society. How have your education and life experiences shaped your work as an activist? My journey into mental health and psychology was driven by personal experiences and the lack of mental health conversations in Kenya. Growing up, the stigmatization and scarcity of resources made mental health issues feel nonexistent. During the COVID-19 lockdown, I was forced to self-reflect and realized the significant impact of my previously unrecognised emotions. This led me to major in psychology to better understand the mind and spread awareness. My education and personal experiences have equipped me with the knowledge and empathy needed to advocate effectively for mental health. Who do you follow for inspiration, leadership, or encouragement? I draw inspiration from various sources, including films and philosophies. Movies like "Forrest Gump," "Beautiful Boy," and "Shutter Island '' have had a profound impact on my understanding of mental health. Philosophies such as Stoicism and Taoism, along with teachings from different religions, inspire me. Influential figures like Carl Jung, Osho, and Marcus Aurelius are significant sources of inspiration. Additionally, I admire Theo (Dunfey) and Phoebe (de Larrabeiti) – leaders of GCC – whom I work with, and exemplify what it means to be accommodating and effective leaders. Does activism play a role in your profession, or does it have to be separated to protect you and both sets of goals? For me, activism is an integral part of my profession. I believe that our personal experiences and recoveries equip us to help others in similar situations. My journey through mental breakdowns and recovery has enabled me to assist others with their mental health. I view activism as a natural extension of my authentic self and my profession, which aligns with my core values of spreading love and helping others. Activism and my profession are intertwined, as both aim to create positive change. What's your connection to Global Citizens Circle? My connection to Global Citizens Circle (GCC) stems from my involvement with MCW Global, a partner organization. Through this partnership, I have been able to amplify my efforts in mental health activism and engage with a broader network of like-minded individuals and organizations. GCC has provided a platform for me to extend my reach and impact, particularly among the youth. What advice do you have for young people throughout the world who have a desire to create positive change? My advice to young people is to start with themselves. Change begins with you. Don't focus on the numbers or the money; instead, do what you are passionate about, and the people and resources will follow. Embrace your experiences, both good and bad, as they shape your ability to help others. Authenticity is key, align your actions with your true self and values. Remember that even small efforts can create a ripple effect, leading to significant positive change. Stay resilient, seek knowledge, and continuously strive to make a difference.  My advice to young people is to start with themselves. Change begins with you. – Stanley Asango |
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